Covert disdain is incredibly damaging, especially under the guise of friendship, romance, or social interactions. I agree 100%
I wrote an essay on being nice versus kind that kind of spoke on this (not a promotional plug, just a statement). And that's what kind of reminds me of what you're describing. Because people behave nicely on the surface, but many times it's covering up blatant disrespect and unkindness. It is in the subtlties of side eyes in mockery, or "light hearted jokes," that took me a long time to pick up on. And then took me a long time to heal from the reality that people felt so comfortable being so disrespectful to me. And then when I cut them out of my life, the utter shock and confusion, followed by the defensiveness was wild.
Becca, Itβs honestly surreal finding people who understand this kind of experience so deeply. I think one of the hardest parts is that the betrayal itself takes time to process, but the healing and rebuilding afterward takes even longer. It took me years to even find the language for it in a way that felt honest instead of reactive. π€
Covert disdain is incredibly damaging, especially under the guise of friendship, romance, or social interactions. I agree 100%
I wrote an essay on being nice versus kind that kind of spoke on this (not a promotional plug, just a statement). And that's what kind of reminds me of what you're describing. Because people behave nicely on the surface, but many times it's covering up blatant disrespect and unkindness. It is in the subtlties of side eyes in mockery, or "light hearted jokes," that took me a long time to pick up on. And then took me a long time to heal from the reality that people felt so comfortable being so disrespectful to me. And then when I cut them out of my life, the utter shock and confusion, followed by the defensiveness was wild.
Becca, Itβs honestly surreal finding people who understand this kind of experience so deeply. I think one of the hardest parts is that the betrayal itself takes time to process, but the healing and rebuilding afterward takes even longer. It took me years to even find the language for it in a way that felt honest instead of reactive. π€